It’s been one of those weeks. I’m tired, I’m crabby, no one listens and there’s a wet towel lying on the floor again! Grrrr…..
I need a break, just two days… alright, one day… okay, give me an hour and you’ve got yourself a deal.
Life with kids is busy, there’s no doubt about it. If you’ve also had those days where your kids are lucky to make it out alive at bedtime, I’m sure you’ll benefit from my:
Tips for not losing it with your kids:
1. Schedule regular me time
“What’s that?” you ask with a hint of sarcasm. And to that I say “I hear you sister!” But seriously, me-time is really important for parents. Before you became a mom what did you do in your free time? Did you have a hobby? Did you love meeting the girls for coffee? Wine? You can still do all of those things. You may just need to plan them better now. Get your partner, your mom or a friend to baby-sit while you go about doing some normal adult things. You could even start a baby-sitting club with friends who have children of similar age to yours, and then you and hubby could finally go on that long-overdue date. Still stuck for ideas? Check out my Twenty “Me Time” Ideas
2. Get physical
Join a yoga or pilates group, join a gym, take baby / toddler with you. This will get them used to interacting with others and allow you time to focus on your fitness goals. Did you know that physical activity causes an increase in the release of endorphins (the feel-good hormone) in your body? It’s been proven that regular exercise reduces stress, wards off anxiety and feelings of depression, boosts self-esteem and even improves sleep.
3. Eat healthily
I’m not here to tell you what diet or eating plan you should be following, and there are so many out there today. Do you follow the Banting way? Or is it safe to consume carbohydrates? I’ll let you decide… However, it is documented that poor nutrition can lead to depression, anxiety, tiredness and the onset of many diseases. If you know you fall into this group, you can change your eating habits today – it’s easier than you think. My advice is to contact a dietician to work out an eating plan for you. In the meantime, swop fizzy drinks and juices for water (add fresh lemon and mint so it’s not so boring), decrease your sugar and salt intake, cut down on processed foods and cook wholesome meals yourself, at home. Sound body equals sound mind, right?
4. Set boundaries with your children
Boundaries are important for children. They make children feel safe and decrease their anxiety. Boundaries are important for you too. They allow children to grow up and realise that they cannot always have their own way. If you can start teaching your children this from the beginning (granted, it’s not an overnight process) your days of negotiating with children will be much less trying and exhausting, I can assure you. For more reasons why you should be setting boundaries with your children, read my post on Boundaries.
5. Ask for help when you need it
Ah, the proverbial mommy martyr… We do it to ourselves! We all claim to be Super Mom, and we all probably are (wink, wink) but even Super Mom needs a break every now and then. To refuel, so to say, call on your side kicks. Batman had Robin, you have hubby; or mom; a good friend or a neighbour. Don’t be afraid to ask for help, it doesn’t make you any less of a mom. After all, when mom’s happy, everybody’s happy, right?
Do you have any tips of your own for not losing it with your kids? I’d love to hear from you 🙂